Someone on a page I follow posted this cry for help from a veteran with PTSD. Less than 24 hours later he had taken his own life.
Sometimes just putting it all out there can make it hurt more because you get to see it all, vividly, in writing. Trust me on that one.
I can also tell you that just reaching out to the vet or troubled person is not enough. Someone, you, needs to go to that person asap. Spend however much time you need to with them to make sure they are safe. This vet has so many replies to his comment, offering him rooms to stay or a shoulder to cry on. It obviously didn’t help. He didn’t see it as help, he just saw it as more empty words. Well meaning or not, nobody came to find this guy and he decided to end the pain.
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Jake, I’m very sorry to hear of the loss of Ben. I don’t know his circumstances, but acknowledge the issues he faced and the feelings he felt.
You have built (and are expanding) a broad support base. We have your six. You are a smart guy and have previously stated your ability to manage appearances. I just ask that you give us transparency. That you give your community a chance to help if/when you are approaching a crisis point. That you give us some heads-up when you are feeling the pull of fate. We want to – and can – help.
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The support from the CVMA post beyond anything I have ever seen, loss is tough.
A very interesting article on the imact of suicide on the family. https://www.washingtonpost.com/lifestyle/style/suicide-is-desperate-it-is-hostile-it-is-tragic-but-mostly-it-is-a-bloody-mess/2018/06/08/ecf66aee-6b54-11e8-bea7-c8eb28bc52b1_story.html?noredirect=on&utm_term=.c5389822f1d4
Jake, I don’t think it’s in your best interest to be dwelling on things that are depressing and which you cannot do anything about. I’d suggest when you find yourself drawn to the morose, you catch yourself at it and force yourself to focus on your relationship to your family. That’s something you can do something about, and which will, over time, give you lasting comfort.